Do you have a shy, clingy toddler who just will not break loose from mommy’s leg?  Do you want to help encourage your child to be more social, and outgoing?  We have some tips for you to help encourage your child to overcome the shyness that they are experiencing. 

Tip #1 - Give it some time.
  I know this seems like it is not a tip at all, but it is true, children have to have time to get used to new surroundings and situations and therefore cannot be pushed too early.  It is important that you as their parent are supportive and encouraging but also give them time to learn and grow in their new environment, whether this be their first time in daycare or preschool, a play date or even being around family members that they do not see often.  

Tip #2 - Withdraw criticism.
  Make sure that you do not criticize your child for being shy or allow others to do so as well.  Shyness is often times a personality trait, one that many people never grow out of, with this being said it’s important to support the uniqueness of your child.  We were all created as unique beings and should be loved and adored for whom we are, your toddler included.  Criticism will only worsen the situation.

Tip #3 - Be their cheerleader.
  Many times the best thing that we can do for a child to bring them out of their shell is to be their cheerleader.  Many times children show the characteristics of being shy because they lack confidence, they are unsure if they are doing things that please us as adults and they are often even afraid of how we are going to react.  Therefore, when your child colors you a picture that is out of the lines, the sun is black, and the sky is purple cheer them on. 

Give them credit for their effort, from picking up a few blocks when cleaning up to eating all their green veggies at supper.  We are the only parents our children will ever have, be positive and help them to break through their barrier of shyness by building their confidence.  As you can see the most important thing that you can do as a parent  to help your child to overcome shyness is to be positive, encouraging and understanding.